I've been married for 28 years but I did ask my wife out after meeting her, but I think we really hit it off I know I would've been ok with her asking me out. Before her I had a handful of women ask me out and mostly went on at least one date with them because there was mutual interest, and I hadn't made the move yet. I am not a Chad by any means but also not an incel although 30 years ago I did feel that way many times about women. Where were they all? Why don't they want to go out with me? etc... Dating is a highly frustrating game. Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and tell me younger self some tricks I've learned being married. I think it would be so less frustrated back then. 28 years of marriage has had it's ups and downs but mostly it's been good. It's so much better than dating I can say that!